Prevailing Through God’s Plans

Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. ~ Proverbs 19:21

My Plans

Oh I had all sorts of grand plans for when I grew up. I was going to marry prince charming, have four adorable and well-behaved children, own my own dream home with a white picket fence and a wrap around porch where I would sit in the afternoon admiring my children at play. Inside my home would always look like Martha Steward herself lived there. I would be a picture perfect mom and wife. Our home would be filled with the laughter and love of family and friends.

My Reality

I became a mom for the first time at 17. I married at 19 and had our second (and last) child at 20. Nowhere in my plans did I dream:

  • Raising a son with autism and cystic fibrosis
  • My daughter struggling to learn to read due to severe dyslexia
  • My husband and I working so very hard at our marriage
  • Our home being empty of family and friends, because we were just trying to survive the day
  • Only sleeping 2-3 hours each night for 22 years
  • Being very lonely, stressed and at times miserable
  • Fighting a public school system for my son’s right to be educated as he needed
  • Fighting with a different school that my daughter was in fact dyslexic
  • Having a daughter who would rather play basketball and baseball with her cousins instead of having pretty dresses and tea parties
  • Being broken, lost and isolated
  • Being a hands-on parent 24/7 for 23 years
  • Spending a life time in hospitals (both medical and psychological), thousands of doctor’s office and many ambulance rides

Fast Forward 23 Years

I could never have dreamed of the blessings that came with God’s plans for my family. Yes, I called all of that a blessing. Why?

  • Most marriages don’t make it through the kind of stuff we went through: married early, two small children, Marine Corps, special needs children, and life-threatening illnesses. But God knew exactly who would stick by my side through all of it, even if we didn’t like each other very much on some days. We will celebrate 22 years of marriage this year.
  • I questioned, ranted and raved asking God “why? why me?” Then one day I realized God was teaching me about unconditional love, patience and the bigger picture.
  • Because we didn’t have close friends we depended on each other very much and our dependence on God increased.
  • Because I didn’t have a girly girl my daughter opened up the world of sports to me. I look forward to going to basketball or baseball games.
  • I never thought our son would be able to move out. God knew though. Our son is flourishing in a new home learning daily life skills with the hope of one day moving into his own apartment.

When our son moved out in April 2011 and our daughter was in her own apartment at college I thought “finally smooth sailing – it’s been a very long 22 years!” I thought surely we have faced and conquered enough obstacles to last three lifetimes…….

God Had Other Plans

Six weeks ago our 20-year-old daughter was diagnosed with seizures. As we look back over the years we realize now that what we thought were migraines were seizures. This is a pivotal time in her college education – Spring semester of her junior year. Her life has changed. She needs other people to drive her. She has to ask for help and that bothers her greatly. I have to once again rely completely on God.

Do I still say all of this is a blessing? Yes – a thousand times over yes!!! The one central unchanged theme in my life has been I have needed God at all times, in all circumstances! Each time I thought “whew, that’s behind us, it should be easy peasy from here.” I would find myself on my knees asking God to see us through.

If I would have had my dreams come true, I wouldn’t have needed God for anything. His plans require that I need Him minute by minute. I have lived through hell, been broken and had my dreams crushed but through it all God has been and will continue to be my Refuge, my Rock and my Shield. Yes, His plans are always better than my dreams.

By the way – I absolutely married my prince charming.



17 thoughts on “Prevailing Through God’s Plans

  1. Wow Veronica! This post was amazing! Thank you for sharing your story and for the reminder that we all need God in all circumstances. Sometimes we need to go through struggles and difficulties to learn to fully rely on Him.

  2. Thank you so much for sharing this. It is very encouraging the way that, through it all, you have decided to continue to trust and rely on God–no matter what.

  3. Thanks for sharing, especially on a day where Hallmark and the world tries to con us into believing that if we are not living the fairy tale something is wrong! Truly blessed by your insight.
    Tammy OBS Group Leader

  4. Great post, Veronica! Thanks for sharing your story. It sounds like you had to grow up at an early age, but glad to hear God helped you through all the storms. Your story reveals that God does see us through things in the world and He never fails us. Anything is possible with God!

  5. Thank you veronica, what a great testimony! You gave me such great hope and inspiration to keep on trusting God no matter what a situation look likes.

  6. What a beautiful testimony, Veronica. So happy to see your blog on here today! You are a picture of love and humility in all that you do. Your life demonstrates, as all of our lives should, the “perfecting of faith.” — “…being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.” NKJV ❤ Thank you, Veronica, for sharing your heart! ❤

  7. Thank you very much for sharing. What an inspiration! I count the hard times as a blessing as well. These are the times I grow the most. Wonderful reminders of who GOD is and what HE can do.

  8. As another mama of a son with Autism (mine’s 9), I love reading your story. You ability and desire to call it all blessing. And how God engineered your circumstances to draw you closer to him and to your Prince Charming. Loved this!

  9. What an amazing and beautiful post. Thank you for sharing your story. Such an inspiration and your love for the Lord really shows!!

  10. Veronica, thank you for this incredibly honest and vulnerable post. It is such a powerful testimony to what is REALLY important in our lives. Some days are good and some even great. But many days, we are driven to our knees and can’t make sense of anything. And what you show us today is that no matter what kind of day it is, HE IS ENOUGH. He is our Sufficiency, our Strength, our Portion. He is the center when everything is off balance. If we have the Lord, we will always find our way back. I just love this. Thank you for sharing. And I am praying God’s healing hand will be mightily upon your daughter and for wisdom to know exactly how to bring about perfect healing in her body!!

    Love you, friend,


  11. Love you, V! Thanks so much for sharing. What a great testimony to your love and faith and perseverance! I keep you in my prayers!

  12. Great post. I saw you have my name on your FAve list. That is not my website any longer. It still has my older post but this is my new website since October. Hope you are doing well.

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